Obesity revisited- It’s time to reframe, not blame

In two recent posts (links below) I introduced the medical topic of obesity because-

It is a major concern in the medical community

it is covered extensively in the media

many people are interested in it

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One  reader’s comment caused  me to pause, reflect and realize I need to make a clarification right up front. His comment stated,

“I know this topic is important but it seems society has resorted to fat-shaming while idolizing anorexic-looking people. What do you think?” 

Unfortunately, I do agree. People who are overweight have been the subject of jokes, sitcoms, movies. Obese children and teens may be the victims of bullying and ridicule. The fashion world tends to market chiefly to normal or even thin people, especially women’s clothes.

Even the medical community has been guilty of assuming that obesity results merely from lack of will power, motivation and valid attempts to lose weight. In an editorial in The American Journal of Medicine titled “A Candid Discussion of Obesity”, Dr. Robert Doroghazi wrote,

“Sir or Madam, it’s not OK to be obese. Obesity is bad. You are overweight because you eat too much. You also need to exercise more. Your obesity cannot be blamed on ..anything else. You weight too much because you eat too much. Your health and your weight are your responsibility.”   ( 2014.09.24)

The rest of Dr. Doroghazi’s editorial was equally blunt, and he does make some valid points. These include

  • Little progress has been made in the fight against obesity.
  • The work of obesity advocacy groups has helped to destigmatize obesity.
  • The various “causations” of obesity keep shifting focus- fast food, soda, television, computers, government, society in general.
  • We need new ideas and directions about solving this problem.

One conclusion he mentions more than once is probably most important- a person’s health and weight ( but not limited to their weight I would add) is one’s personal responsibility. But that  should be true for any medical condition- whether one seeks out the care of a healthcare professional or not, ultimately it is each of our responsibility to get what we need to treat illness and stay healthy.

Telling someone they need to eat less is a start. But the next step is to explore the reasons why that person eats more than they need; not to assign blame, but to reverse the factors that perpetuate the unhealthy behavior. The same goes for exercise; identify what are the barriers to exercise, or what can create an environment more conducive to physical activity.

At a recent national forum on obesity, family physicians advocated for better ways of addressing obesity with patients, and recommended avoiding blaming.

“We don’t do it with other conditions,” Kahan said. “We don’t call people with cancer ‘cancerous’ or call people with depression ‘depressives.’ We should refer to ‘a patient with obesity’ rather than saying ‘he is obese.'”

Patients who struggle with their weight should be treated as someone in need of medical attention, not someone who made bad choices, observed another panelist.

“Obesity is not a sign of weakness or a lack of willpower,” said Don Bradley, M.D., M.H.S.-C.L., from the Duke University Department of Community and Family Medicine. “It is a condition.”

 

I’ll be posting content reviewing obesity management, what works, what doesn’t and what may be used in the future. Here are the previous posts in case you missed them.

What is obesity and why it matters

Waist size matters

A Personal Tribute on Memorial Day at Angel Fire Vietnam Veterans Memorial

Memorial Day, observed on the last Monday of May in the U.S., honors those who died serving in the armed forces. In 2014, we visited the Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Angel Fire, New Mexico, to participate in a remembrance service and view an engraved brick .

updated May 25, 2025

The United States celebrates Memorial Day on the last Monday of  May, a day set aside to remember people who died while serving in the armed forces, although many families use it to remember other deceased loved ones also.  

Memorial Day 2014 was special and unique for me and my husband.

We had planned a trip to New Mexico, not realizing we would be there on Memorial Day. I was attending a medical conference. We wanted to visit the Vietnam Veterans Memorial at Angel Fire.

Since my husband is a Vietnam Veteran, I had ordered a brick engraved with his name to be laid on the walkway there. We wanted to see it, and decided to go on Memorial Day, to join the special remembrance service they have on that day.

It was a chilly overcast day, not what we expected for late May. Fittingly, the rain held off until the ceremony ended, then it poured down. I took all of the photos in this post.

on the memorial grounds, the chapel in the background
In the background, I am kneeling to view Raymond's brick
In the background, I am kneeling to view Raymond’s brick
Inside the chapel, which is never locked; it is open for anyone to enter at any time
presenting a flag and plaque to the family of a fallen soldier
A flag and plaque were presented to the family of a fallen soldier
music by a local military reserve unit
A local military reserve unit provided music.
Raymond with the late Dr. Westphal, who founded the memorial in honor of his son who died in Vietnam (an old photo)

On an earlier trip Raymond met with the late Dr. Westphall, who founded the memorial in honor of his son David, who died in Vietnam.

 David Westphal Veterans Foundation

“The purpose of the David Westphall Veterans Foundation is to honor America’s veterans and members of its military forces by memorializing the sacrifices they have made and by recognizing the sense of duty and the courage they have displayed as they answered their country’s call to arms.”

Sharing the HEART of remembrance

Thanks for sharing the Angel Fire Memorial with us. If you are ever in northeast New Mexico, don’t miss visiting the memorial, museum, and veterans cemetery which has been added since our last visit. You can also visit nearby Taos and the Taos Pueblo.

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