Many health issues would resolve or be easier to manage if life stressors would just go away. Three fourths of the patients treated by primary care physicians have problems aggravated by emotional, social, or behavioral issues.
As a college graduation gift, I gave a friend’s son a gift certificate to Barnes and Noble Bookseller. He earned a mechanical engineering degree and will work as a rocket structural engineer.
He sent me a nice handwritten thank you note (which few people do these days) and said he plans to use it to buy a book that other structural engineers recommend. The book is Roark’s Formulas for Stress and Strain.
Wouldn’t it be nice if there were a formula for handling the stress and strain of life?
Many health issues would resolve or be easier to manage if life stressors would just go away. Three fourths of the patients treated by primary care physicians have problems aggravated by emotional, social, or behavioral issues.
Life’s interruptions and disruptions won’t disappear, but you can make them less of a strain on your time, energy, and resources. There’s usually no quick fix but 5 steps can lessen their impact.
I learned the value of these steps when I dealt with the stress of a foot fracture that required surgery to correct it, and a longer convalescence than I expected. For someone who is used to being active, the prolonged inactivity stressed me both physically and emotionally. These 5 steps were already a part of my life, but consciously choosing them helped me cope with what would otherwise cause frustration and sadness.
5 steps to manage life’s stress and strain
1. Create and maintain a routine and schedule.
Having a plan for your time helps you feel more in control of your life. Resist the tendency to become socially isolated or avoid activities you usually enjoy.
Times of crisis, loss, or illness may leave you feeling disconnected and adrift, but having a schedule provides structure and connection. When you are busy, you are less likely to feel overwhelmed and hopeless.
2. Recognizing and reaching out to social supports
Your family and friends are your first line of support during times of stress and duress. It’s nice if we don’t have to ask for their support, but their lives are busy too, so don’t be hesitant to ask for help if you need it. If they don’t call you, call them.
Conversation over coffee can be therapeutic. graphic from the Lightstock collection( affiliate link)
Other sources for help include your healthcare professionals; don’t be embarrassed to share that you need social and emotional support. Your doctor can help you identify and get connected with community resources.
Look for help from your or your spouse’s job, your religious community, organizations you belong to, your school, and online resources for support- educational sites, forums, support groups. Although not as personal as face to face support, these are helpful if you are geographically isolated or mobility is difficult.
3. Reframe by refocusing on the positive rather than the negative.
Recognizing and emphasizing the positive in life makes the problems less overwhelming and distressing. Look for something to be grateful for, or that brings a little joy into your day. It may be as simple as flowers blooming in your yard, your favorite tea and sweet, a funny story in a magazine.
Balloons are nice, too.
Remembering and observing happy events, occasions, and celebrations can also be sources of renewed joy.
Norma, a woman facing terminal illness, reframed her crisis by finding joy in small things, like jigsaw puzzles, new foods, and a “good perm”. Read more about her at
Physical activity doesn’t have to be a chore, boring, or expensive. Many things can be done at home or in your neighborhood-walking, bicycling, cardio, yoga. If exercise isn’t your thing, try dancing, gardening, swimming.
If your physical mobility is limited, try something stimulating mentally-sewing, crafts, games, puzzles, writing, cooking are just a few possibilities.
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5. Nurture your inner self
Sometimes we need to withdraw from outward activities and stimulation for times of quiet rest and reflection.
You may find help from mindfulness, meditation, prayer, devotional reading, music, journaling, or a combination of these approaches.
I use the breathing exercises on the Aaptiv Fitness app to relax and unwind after a long day.
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18 thoughts on “5 steps to manage stress and strain”
Thanks for the tips. Many of these steps have become part of my daily life. Most recently, I’ve been focusing on #3, focusing on the positive. The most difficult one for me is #2, asking for support. I don’t know why asking for help is such a difficult thing for so many of us. I’m going to work on that. Thanks for the motivation.
Thank you Christie. We live in a culture that prizes independence and success; asking for help can imply weakness and failure. Instead, I think it often is due to pride and not wanting to feel vulnerable. And it is a risk. But when people step up to help, it blesses them and us. I’m working on it too.
#5 is what has worked best for me–the focus on something pleasurable to do, be it mindfulness meditation or doing a crossword puzzle (my personal “weakness”) or gardening. It helps you “get away” from yourself for a few minutes, and that in itself is calming and offers a fresh pespective..
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I agree. It is probably the hardest for us to accomplish; it can seem like wasting time, frivolous, or selfish. Yet in the long run it can be the most productive thing we can do, investing in ourselves so we can then invest in others.
A great guide to stress and strain..Although I am not a medical doctor I am an advocate for let food be thy medicine even if it is alongside traditional medicine…A nice site 🙂
This is a great guide. Sometimes you have to just take a step back and take care of us. I have been reading Imagine Harmony by Dale Duvall, it’s a real comprehensive read on stress management and so good. He really gives an in depth look into many techniques, and it’s worked for me! I recommend it.
I think asking for support is the hardest for me to do! I hate to inconvenience others. Thanks for sharing at The Blogger’s Pit Stop! Roseann from http://www.thisautoimmunelife.com
I hate being a bother too. I tell myself that others don’t get a chance to “pay it forward” if they don’t know what’s needed. That has motivated me to be more open, but it’s still a challenge. thanks Roseann
These are great tips to help manage stress and strain. I had a heart attack several years ago, so I know what stress can do. Thanks for sharing on Sunday’s Best, and I hope your broken foot mends quickly.
Thank you Rhonda, I’m usually very healthy so this is a challenge. Im glad you survived the heart attack, I suspect it taught you much about the heart of health, quite literally.
I love your guide to stress and strain. 🙂
It’s so hard to take a minute to stop to think about our stress. It really does help though.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for the feedback. I hope you don’t need the advice, but things often happen unexpectedly, like my broken foot. One day I was fine, then I fell and everything changed. Stay well.
Thanks for the tips. Many of these steps have become part of my daily life. Most recently, I’ve been focusing on #3, focusing on the positive. The most difficult one for me is #2, asking for support. I don’t know why asking for help is such a difficult thing for so many of us. I’m going to work on that. Thanks for the motivation.
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Thank you Christie. We live in a culture that prizes independence and success; asking for help can imply weakness and failure. Instead, I think it often is due to pride and not wanting to feel vulnerable. And it is a risk. But when people step up to help, it blesses them and us. I’m working on it too.
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#5 is what has worked best for me–the focus on something pleasurable to do, be it mindfulness meditation or doing a crossword puzzle (my personal “weakness”) or gardening. It helps you “get away” from yourself for a few minutes, and that in itself is calming and offers a fresh pespective..
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Thanks for sharing your perspective. I agree. It is probably the hardest for us to accomplish; it can seem like wasting time, frivolous, or selfish. Yet in the long run it can be the most productive thing we can do, investing in ourselves so we can then invest in others.
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A great guide to stress and strain..Although I am not a medical doctor I am an advocate for let food be thy medicine even if it is alongside traditional medicine…A nice site 🙂
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Thanks for visiting. Yes I think we barely appreciate the importance of food to our health, it’s not just fuel (calories).
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This is a great guide. Sometimes you have to just take a step back and take care of us. I have been reading Imagine Harmony by Dale Duvall, it’s a real comprehensive read on stress management and so good. He really gives an in depth look into many techniques, and it’s worked for me! I recommend it.
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I appreciate your comments. Thanks for the recommendation, I have not heard of that book. I’ll look for it.
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Great tips!! In today’s world, there is too much stress. Knowing how to get by is a blessing! 🙂
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Too much stress for sure! Thanks for visiting.
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I see why I’m doing these things now, sometimes I just couldn’t even understand myself.
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It’s good to know our minds and spirits know the right things to do, we just let distractions get in the way. Thanks for sharing, Sandra.
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I think asking for support is the hardest for me to do! I hate to inconvenience others. Thanks for sharing at The Blogger’s Pit Stop! Roseann from http://www.thisautoimmunelife.com
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I hate being a bother too. I tell myself that others don’t get a chance to “pay it forward” if they don’t know what’s needed. That has motivated me to be more open, but it’s still a challenge. thanks Roseann
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These are great tips to help manage stress and strain. I had a heart attack several years ago, so I know what stress can do. Thanks for sharing on Sunday’s Best, and I hope your broken foot mends quickly.
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Thank you Rhonda, I’m usually very healthy so this is a challenge. Im glad you survived the heart attack, I suspect it taught you much about the heart of health, quite literally.
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I love your guide to stress and strain. 🙂
It’s so hard to take a minute to stop to think about our stress. It really does help though.
Thanks for sharing.
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Thanks for the feedback. I hope you don’t need the advice, but things often happen unexpectedly, like my broken foot. One day I was fine, then I fell and everything changed. Stay well.
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