Call me weird, but I enjoy reading obituaries because I enjoy learning about people. Some obits revel in listing the person’s achievements-education degrees, military service medals, business positions, public and volunteer service recognition;descriptions of exotic travel, unique hobbies, special interests, creative pursuits and talents.
One of my favorite obits was different; simple, yet revealing a wealth of information about a man known simply as Jim (edited slightly for privacy)
“Jim, who died at 90 years old, was born on Valentine’s Day. He grew up on a farm, joined the Army, and went to a state teacher’s college on the GI Bill.
There he met his wife, and they had 2 children and 5 grandchildren. He earned a master’s degree and spent his professional life as a teacher of math, science, and social studies to elementary students. After retirement, he continued working as a tutor.
Jim enjoyed backyard gardening, walking to the library, math problems, weather reports and local high school sports. Jim always put the needs of others before himself.
In lieu of flowers please plant a flower, a tree, or even a vegetable garden. Jim would really like that.”
Despite his obituary’s simplicity, I feel like I knew Jim, he was someone I would have liked, even having as a neighbor. Obits don’t have to be complicated and fancy, and neither does life, if Jim is any proof.
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