A college graduate receives a gift certificate for a book, choosing a technical manual for his engineering career. This post reflects on the need for coping mechanisms for life’s stressors, sharing five essential steps to manage stress and strain. These steps include maintaining a routine, seeking social support, focusing on the positive, staying active, and nurturing one’s inner self.
As a college graduation gift, I gave a friend’s son a gift certificate to a bookstore. He has earned a mechanical engineering degree and will work as a rocket structural engineer.
He sent me a nice handwritten thank you note (which few people do these days) and said he plans to use it to buy a book that other structural engineers recommend. The book is Roark’s Formulas for Stress and Strain.
Wouldn’t it be nice if there were a “formula” for handling the stress and strain of life?
Many health issues would resolve or be easier to manage if life stressors would just go away. Three-fourths of the patients treated by primary care physicians have problems aggravated by emotional, social, or behavioral issues.
No quick fix to stress and strain
Life’s interruptions and disruptions won’t disappear, but you can make them less of a strain on your time, energy, and resources. There’s usually no quick fix but 5 steps can lessen their impact.
I learned the value of these steps when I dealt with the stress of a foot fracture that required surgery to correct and a longer convalescence than I expected. For someone who is used to being active, the prolonged inactivity stressed me both physically and emotionally. These 5 steps were already a part of my life, but consciously choosing them helped me cope with what would otherwise cause frustration and sadness.
5 steps to Manage Life’s Stress and Strain
1. Create and maintain a routine and schedule.
Having a plan for your time helps you feel more in control of your life. Resist the tendency to become socially isolated or avoid activities you usually enjoy.
Times of crisis, loss, or illness may leave you feeling disconnected and adrift, but having a schedule provides structure and connection. When you are busy, you are less likely to feel overwhelmed and hopeless.
2. Recognizing and reaching out to social supports
Your family and friends are your first line of support during times of stress and duress. It’s nice if we don’t have to ask for their support, but their lives are busy too, so don’t be hesitant to ask for help if you need it. If they don’t call you, call them.
Conversation over coffee can be therapeutic. graphic from the Lightstock collection( affiliate link)
Other sources for help include your healthcare professionals; don’t be embarrassed to share that you need social and emotional support. Your doctor can help you identify and get connected with community resources.
Look for help from your or your spouse’s job, your religious community, organizations you belong to, your school, and online resources for support- educational sites, forums, and support groups. Although not as personal as face-to-face support, these are helpful if you are physically isolated or mobility is difficult.
3. Reframe by refocusing on the positive rather than the negative.
Recognizing and emphasizing the positive in life makes the problems less overwhelming and distressing. Look for something to be grateful for, or that brings a little joy into your day. It may be as simple as flowers blooming in your yard, your favorite tea and sweet, or a funny story in a magazine.
Balloons are nice, too.
Remembering and observing happy events, occasions, and celebrations can also be sources of renewed joy.
Norma, a woman facing terminal illness, reframed her crisis by finding joy in small things, like jigsaw puzzles, new foods, and a “good perm”. Read more about her at
Physical activity doesn’t have to be a chore, boring, or expensive. Many things can be done at home or in your neighborhood-walking, bicycling, cardio, yoga. If exercise isn’t your thing, try dancing, gardening, and swimming.
If your physical mobility is limited, try something stimulating mentally- sewing, crafts, games, puzzles, writing, and cooking are just a few possibilities.
5. Nurture your inner self
Sometimes we need to withdraw from outward activities and stimulation for times of quiet rest and reflection.
You may find help from mindfulness, meditation, prayer, devotional reading, music, journaling, or a combination of these approaches.
I use the breathing exercises on my Fitbit App to relax and unwind after a long day.
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