Two Words That Still Change My Life

When I watched the war in Vietnam on TV news, I didn’t realize the doctor I had read about had worked there. I never imagined that I would ever go there. And I never imagined that war would help me meet my husband, and create a family that brings me joy every day.

I’ve shared this post several times, and every time I’ve heard from someone, usually unexpected, who tells me the story speaks to them in a similar way.Like

  • A couple I’ve never met in Australia
  • A long ago friend I had not talked to since we were teenagers
  • A young mother who was a former work colleague.
  • One of my best childhood friends

I didn’t know  any of their stories before, but learning we share a similar bond brought new meaning to our relationship.

If you are someone who shares a story similar to ours, I hope you will contact me. My husband and I would love to join our hearts to yours wherever you are. Perhaps these words will change your lifves too. .

a couple sitting at a table by a window with an ocean view

Here is the post, originally called

Two Words That Changed My Life

In college I participated in Chi Alpha, a faith-based student group. When I started dating  a young man of a different faith, he enjoyed coming to the gatherings with me and my friends liked him. We were fond of each other, but his feelings grew stronger and more serious than mine.

To be fair, I ended the relationship. We parted amicably but he left our group; it was awkward for both of us. Although the breakup was best of us both, I grieved  the loss of our friendship.

One evening several of us were talking when a new member of our group joined us. We knew little about him other than he had recently left the Army and started attending the university.

He looked at me and said, “Where is John tonight?” (not his real name) No one spoke as everyone looked from me to him and back to me. Apparently he was the only one who didn’t know we had broken up.

Finally, one of the girls softly explained, “They aren’t dating anymore.”

Everyone remained silent, I suppose assuming I was upset . I wasn’t upset but I realized everyone else was uncomfortable. I didn’t want our new friend to feel bad about the mistake, so I tried to make light of it. I blurted out the first thing that popped into my head.

“That’s right,” I said smiling.  “I’m available.”

With that, everyone, including me, laughed. Thinking back now, I wonder why I said that. It was out of character for me, a confirmed introvert, and besides, I did not need or want another romantic relationship. I was planning to attend medical school, and romance did not fit into that plan.

However, the young man took me seriously, calling me a few days later to ask for a date. And despite my reluctance to become involved, I said yes.

“What harm could it do?” I thought. “Why sit in the dorm alone on Friday night?”

Two more words

That night I learned about Raymond’s past. He had served for three years in the Army . He had already earned a bachelor’s degree and was attending graduate school with his veteran’s benefits. I casually asked if he had been stationed overseas. He said yes- he had served in Germany and in Vietnam. I did not realize those words also would change my life.

soldiers at a remote military base
various scenes from the firebase where Raymond was stationed in VietNam; I understood nothing about what happened there.

Answers about health from the world’s smartest woman

She has one of the highest IQs in the world. She is certifiably the world’s smartest woman, according to the Guinness Book of World Records. She is married to none other than Dr. Robert Jarvik, developer of the artificial heart.


What the word needs now is love, sweet love, that’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.” 

Hal David, lyricist

One of my Sunday traditions is reading Parade , a magazine in the newspaper. One of my favorite parts is the “Ask Marilyn” column where Marilyn Vos Savant answers complex questions on a wide range of subjects- math, science, medicine, technology, economics , games, sports and just about any topic you can imagine.

I have wondered how she does it, imagining it must take hours and hours of research.

But then I learned her history.  She has one of the highest IQs in the world. She is the world’s smartest woman, according to the Guinness Book of World Records, having one of the highest IQs ever recorded.

Parade published an article about how she met her husband. She is married to none other than Dr. Robert Jarvik, developer of the artificial heart.

He called her after reading a magazine article about her, and they had a long distance courtship lasting one year.

At their wedding, science fiction author Isaac Asimov walked her down the aisle; the best man was the 7th recipient of one of the Jarvik artificial hearts! How’s that for romantic. They have been happily married since 1987.      

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Books by Marilyn Vos Savant 

Growing Up: A Classic American Childhood

The Power of Logical Thinking 

exploring the HEART of health by Marilyn  

After she and Dr. Jarvik married, she became Chief Financial Officer of Jarvik Heart, Inc. But she also addresses health issues in the questions she answers in her Parade column and online. Here is a sample of some of them. (I have paraphrased her answers. )

question

Why do some drug side effects wear off and some don’t?

answer

Our bodies respond to drugs in different ways, positive and negative. Sometimes the effects are positive, relieving symptoms or curing an illness. Negative effects range from bothersome to dangerous. Either way, effects may increase or decrease depending on our genetic ability to respond to that particular drug. So sometimes drug dosages need to be changeto continue being effective or the med stopped if side effects persist or worsen.

question

Can you catch a cold from your cat?

answer

Not likely. Viruses that affect dogs and cats are different from those that affect humans, plus humans are susceptible to many more. But mutations an occur and cause animal viruses to infect humans, such as the swine flu.

question

Why do men burn more calories than women?

answer

A person who weighs more will burn more calories. However, men typically have more muscle mass and women have more fat mass; muscle burns more calories than fat.

question

How much of our brain do we use; is it true we only use 10%?

answer

No,it is not true. We use nearly all of our brain. Different parts are more active at times, depending on what we are doing. Only a small fraction of our billion brain cells are active at a time.

Read more of Marilyn’s popular answers at this link.

 

All you need is love.”

Beatles John and Paul (Lennon and McCartney)

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My love story

My husband and I shared a romantic dinner on vacation in Santa Fe, New Mexico. Read about our romance at the link below the photo

man and woman at dinner
Dr. Aletha and Raymond

Two Words That Changed My Life

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